What to Do When We Lose Faith in Goodness

Given the many negative things happening around us and the disappointments caused by other people, we tend to lose our faith in humanity. We become cynical. We no longer believe in goodness. 

However, I still believe that goodness is innate in people. No matter how bad conditions become, good still survives and thrives when there are still people who believe in it and fight for it. So how do we restore our faith in goodness? 

My first suggestion is to lessen the consumption of negative news. Though it is important to know current events, hearing negative news elevates stress levels and negative thinking. Unknowingly, we become more cynical and distrustful. If we think about it, the impact is very detrimental to us. It should not be like that especially when not all facts are presented. Assumptions or allegations are reported on the news which lead us to judge wrongly. 

Second, it is also good to intentionally look for updates or news which are positive. When we make ourselves aware of inspiring, motivating, and positive happenings around us, we are helping our eyes be opened to the beautiful, wonderful, and good things that still exist in the world. 

Third, it is better to spread positivity so that other people feel inspired and motivated to be good individuals as well. Avoid being a gossipmonger. As much as possible, do not use your voice or platform to just criticize other people. Instead, motivate others to make the right decisions and spread positivity – not hate. 

Finally, to restore your faith in the good, always count your blessings. When you remind yourself of the things and people that you have in your life, you stop thinking negative thoughts because you see proof of the goodness in the world firsthand. 

In conclusion, we have to start in ourselves if we want to see goodness restored around us. A single person’s influence can impact many people so let us use our influence the right way. Let us restore our faith in humanity by becoming who we want the world to be. 

 

 

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3 Ways to Take Control of Your Emotions

As human beings, our daily lives constitute myriads of emotions that we can’t help ourselves from feeling. Depending on the reasons or stimuli, we may experience both positive and negative emotions. And, that is fine. We should not fault ourselves for having those feelings because each of those is part of human nature.

However, it is equally essential for us to note that when we cradle negative emotions for an extended period, those emotions would corrupt our thoughts and cloud our judgment. Being in that state is detrimental to our health and our productivity. Therefore, we should learn ways to help us manage such negative emotions when necessary.

  1. Determine if the situation is within your control or not. While there are instances when the challenges you encounter can be fixed or corrected, there are also situations that are unfortunately out of your control, nor can you do something about it. When you find yourself in that situation, it is better to identify where it came from, what triggers the emotion. On the other hand, you should do something to alleviate the circumstance when you see that you can. But the first thing to do is assess the situation to know whether to let it go or work on it.
  2. Ask yourself better questions like “how can I turn things around?” or “what can I learn from this?”. After identifying whether you can solve the situation, the next thing to do is not to prolong the problem by moping around or blaming people or situations. Instead, you should ask yourself how you can correct or solve this problem if possible. If it is out of your control, you should see the bright side of the situation and learn the lesson that you can glean from it.
  3. Take necessary actions to make things better. What do you do when the proverbial milk is spilled? You can’t get the liquid back to the cup. You can’t drink it anymore. So what should you do? Wipe the spill to avoid accidents and make another cup of milk. Indeed, that would make you feel better than crying over what was spilled, right? In other words, when things do not go the way you want them to, find different ways to make it happen or find the next solution.

Nobody is perfect, and bad days are inevitable. However, we should not allow these excuses to justify our negative actions or behaviors that we can control. Having control over our own emotions is a skill in itself that is necessary for maintaining relationships, surviving challenging situations, and thriving in general.

What are other ways you can suggest to control emotions?

 

 

 

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